In our image-centric culture, it’s often easier to be concerned about how we look than who we really are on the inside. But the further our image of ourselves is away from reality, the more disconnect from real relationships we’ll experience. This week in our You 2.0 series, we’ll explore how the challenging task of being self-reflective can open us back up to the growth and vision God has for our lives – and the huge benefits self-awareness can have in our relationship.
Discussion Guide
Week 2: A Self-Reflective Person
Begin your time together with prayer
Introduction
Take a few minutes to check in.
What was it like practicing curiosity this week?
Where did you notice yourself slowing down, listening differently, or responding in a new way?
Connect
Take a few minutes to talk together:
What’s one habit, hobby, or situation that naturally makes you pause and reflect?
When has taking a moment to be honest with yourself helped you grow or make a healthier choice?
Opening
We’re continuing our You 2.0 series, where we’re looking at character traits that help us live and love more like Jesus. Last week we talked about curiosity, and this week we’re turning inward to the practice of self-reflection. In a world that cares a lot about outward image, it’s easy to focus on what people see instead of who we really are. But real transformation happens when we slow down and let God show us what is going on in our hearts. When we take time to reflect with God, we begin to see ourselves more clearly, not through shame, but through his love and grace.
This leads us to our main idea for this week:
We should become well-practiced in self-reflection.
Unpack
Read each set of verses out loud as a group, making observations as you go. Afterward discuss each of the connected questions before moving to the next set of verses:
Read
Psalm 139:23-24
Lamentations 3:40
Discuss
What do these passages teach us about inviting God into the process of reflection, even when it feels uncomfortable?
Why do you think these passages acknowledge that reflection can feel vulnerable? What reassurance do they offer?
How can slowing down to reflect with God draw us closer to his view of our lives?
Read:
Romans 12:2-3
Philippians 4:8-9
Matthew 7:3-5
Discuss:
How do these verses help us see that spiritual growth begins when we let God change the way we think?
What role does humility play in self-reflection?
How does seeing ourselves clearly help us love and understand others better?
What happens to our relationships when we neglect reflection and only focus on others’ faults?
Action Step
Take a moment to be still before God. Ask him to show you one area of your life where he’s inviting you to slow down and reflect.
Consider these questions together:
What keeps you from slowing down for honest reflection?
How can you make reflection a rhythm instead of a reaction to mistakes?
Who in your life helps you see yourself more clearly without judgment? What would it look like to invite that person to speak into your life this week?
Then choose one simple step to practice:
Set aside five quiet minutes each day to ask God, “What do You want me to notice about myself today?”
Journal or pray through what comes to mind, focusing on both encouragement and growth.
Share one reflection with a trusted friend or mentor to grow in honesty and connection.
Closing
Healthy self-reflection isn’t about beating yourself up. It’s about growth. God invites us to bring our real selves to him so he can shape our hearts and attitudes in life-giving ways. As you slow down and reflect this week, remember that when God shows us something about ourselves, it comes from love. He doesn’t point things out to shame us but to help us grow and become more like Jesus.
Pray Together
Pray for the Missionary Focus this week, then take prayer requests from your group and conclude your time in prayer for your group.
Missionary Focus – Joseph Bradford III
Joseph launched his nonprofit, B.A.R.E. Truth, Inc., in 2018 to serve individuals and families in Los Angeles facing homelessness, food insecurity, and other critical needs.
Prayer Requests:
- For a continual positive partnership with LA county
- For the physical and mental wellbeing of the people he serves
Spend a few minutes in prayer for Joseph
Reflection Verse for the Week: *Read this verse, then encourage the practice of reflection and memorization through the week.
2 Corinthians 3:18
“So all of us who have had that veil removed can see and reflect the glory of the Lord. And the Lord—who is the Spirit—makes us more and more like him as we are changed into his glorious image.”
**When practiced consistently, memorizing Bible verses can be an important spiritual practice that centers your mind around the truth that God has given us.
Daily Devotional Verses
Use the S.O.A.P. method to reflect on the verses below.
- Scripture: Read the verses several times. Reading out loud can be helpful as well.
- Observation: What can you see about the scripture you read?
- Application: What is God wanting you to believe, do, or feel, based on what you have read?
- Prayer: This is a chance to talk to God about what you have read and ask him for help in living out what you’ve learned.
Day 1: James 4:8
Day 2: Proverbs 4:23
Day 3: James 1:22-25
Day 4: Philippians 4:13
Day 5: 1 Thessalonians 5:19-22
Day 6: Proverbs 3:6